Posts Tagged ‘ Psychology ’

6 Personality traits to admire and acquire

Everything from Manipulative Marys to Bullies in the workplace to people who break boundaries to toxic relationships…..  Let’s face it:  In life, we come across all kinds!  As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy.  Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may do a lot of good.  The more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks…legitimately.  Maybe they have a fantastic outlook on life, even during difficult times.  Maybe they are really humble, although they are extremely gifted.  Maybe they make you feel special.  All of these are good.

Below, I’ve listed some of the traits I admire most in people.  Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.

  1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common.  People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give.  Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special.  While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.
  2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals.  All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies.  After all, these differences make the world go round.  Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.
  3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial.  Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess.  To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.
  4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us.  Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected.  Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.
  5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find.  In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.
  6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time.  Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.

Oh boy the list could go on!  What characteristics do you admire in others?  Are there any that you want to cultivate?

An Unfortunate Universal Truth – Tin and Humans…a.k.a The Biggest Problem in Universe!

Today’s Chemistry Lecture:

Tin is a chemical element with the symbol Sn (Latin: Stannum) and atomic number 50. It is a main group metal in group 14 of the periodic table. Tin shows chemical similarity to both neighboring group 14 elements, germanium and lead, like the two possible oxidation states +2 and +4. Moreover, it has a very striking similarity, as it has the same physical property as of human beings!

Wait a minute, Bro!

“Are you nuts?” “Similarity with Humans…You mean us??”

“Yeah. Listen up…..”

So you’re wondering how come I boasting around with my crap Chemistry! True I am no genius about Chemistry but surely I noticed one similarity.

When I were in Class 4th, that is, umm..year 2000, I remember one quote in a Hindi story:

“All human beings are like Tin. They become hot quickly and in the same rate, they cool down too!”

I call it the BIGGEST problem in universe. Why? Let me elaborate.

Change!

Obama says “Change”. Martin Luther King said “Change”. I say “Change”. You say “Change” .We say “Change”. Everybody knows one word, “Change!”

Sometimes I reckon this is one of the most over-used word and idea in the human history.

I already explained the way change got to be, that is, by Thinking Differently.

You know something? $8 Billion an year can eradicate people from starving on this planet. If Americans spending $45.5 Billion every year on pet food is radical, logical, and smart enough… its upon your conscience to decide. We have enough funds to spend on such stuffs, but for some noble cause, you can’t spend money?

I tell you people’s problem. I will give hot arguments, and quotes from 114 books. And your blood will warm, Adrenalin shall start circulating and you’ll say, “Yes. We must do this ______, do that _______”

And your begin thinking about it.

One minute. Two minutes. Five minutes.

Whooooooooooooooooooooooooooooosh……………………

Over!

“I have gots work to do.”

“I will do it, some other time”

“Uhmmm..crazy.”

“Its not my thing.”

(Yawn)

“Sh*t, it was party at 6!”

The Past And the Present

You know what, people? The real problem is not that we lack ideas, thoughts or such things.

The real problem lies in our inability for a drive. A flame inside ourselves. Yeah, we get a spark, sure…and it soon goes off!

Why can’t you have a flame that burns properly?

I have no intention to make you fall in depression…But spend a minute on this thought.

Remember.

When you were 8 or 10, and you used to think…”When I’ll be grown-up…like 10-20 years later…I will be doing this…that…. ” Almost a King of the World.

Of course we don’t have a system of Kings and kingdoms anymore, but why did you fail? Do you really think you are as good as you always dreamed to be?

Why not?

O.K. You may say, “I am at Harvard studying Oncology”. Great! You might have been in the forefronts where you never even imagined to be. But what about being a passionate person? A person who jives with thoughts and ideas and works?

Do you really think you are really as good as you always dreamed to be?

Why not?

Because of your weaknesses…?

Maybe, but real answer is still afar. Nobody is born perfect. Am I perfect? If I had been, I wouldn’t have had started out this blog to  let you know about the mistakes I did because of my weaknesses, and experiences I attained from them.

I tell you the answer.

Thanks to you possessing same physical properties as of Tin!

Yeah!

Your drive, passion..where is it? Why have we all become so pathetically lazy about doing something?

We think..and think..and think. And we divert our energy to other things eventually. Take a cause, and jump on it.

I shall be writing some  more after brainstorming further.

(Although, now onward, I shall not blog much for some days…as I have my examinations coming soon)

A Little Say…

Nobody is born perfect. No place is perfect. We make it perfect.

Each day life will send you little windows of opportunity. Your destiny will ultimately be defined by how you respond to these windows of opportunity.

When you bring your highest talents and deepest devotion to the work you do, what you are really doing is settling up for yourself a richer, happier and more fulfilling experience of life.

So people,

Don’t be a Tin. Be human.Be yourself


How To Develop A Mission Statement

It’s 2010. So what?

You have “New Year resolutions” I’m sure.

“I’m going to lose weight.” “I’m going to exercise more.” “ I’m going to live a happy life.”

All valid goals! But if you’re like most people you’re going to fail.

What? Did I really just use the F-word? I expected something higher on aptitude, man!

Let me be the first to say that I have new year resolutions too.

I want to take my blog to the “next level.” I want to eat healthier. I want to exercise more. I want to build even deeper relationships than I already have.

Just like you I’m human. I desire for a better life.

But you see the thing is many of us fail to implement our new years resolutions. Many of us revert to our same old negative habits with in months, weeks, or days, perhaps even hours.

Why is this?

Because you don’t have a purpose. A mission.

Let me say that again you don’t have a purpose or a mission.

Before you scream back but… but.. “ I want to help people!” “ I want to be skinny!” “I want to be rich!”

Let me quickly say this:

Those are not missions. Those goals. Those are universal desires, not your specific mission.. Let me explain.

The people that get what they want. The people, who REALLY get what the want, have a mission. Missions, which, come rain or shine, day or night, they live for.

They live for.

Now look back at those things you supposedly want. “To help people.” “To be skinny.” “To be rich.”
Are you doing everything in your power to accomplish these things? If you haven’t discovered your true life mission, probably not.

I’ll be honest; developing a life mission isn’t easy. It takes a lot of hard work and deep thought, week’s perhaps even months of reflection.  Trust me I learned the hard way. It not happen overnight. But developing a life mission is essential for success. This isn’t new.

Ask any truly successful individual what their life mission is, and I assure you they will respond back with a crystal clear response. Steven Covey author of ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People‘, a must read (as well as MANY other authors) discusses this topic in great detail.

Why?

Let me make myself clear. Mission statements are essential for success.

“Ok. Ok. A mission statement is important I get it. What do I do next?”

The answer is simple. Develop your own mission statement.

How do I do this, you may ask?

Reflect, reflect, and reflect.

I’m going to share with you my current mission statement. I update this constantly to fit my current dreams and intentions; therefore you must do the same. A mission statement is to remain flexible as you continue to learn and grow. So as of right now, the first of the year this is MY mission statement, one that I will base my values and success off of for the 2010 year.

You ready? Here it is.

“My purpose in life is to live passionately and courageously, to enjoy life, to radiate with energy, passion, and love, to share my knowledge in hopes of improving the consciousness of others, to continue to grow daily, sharing my passion for growth a long the way. To share my idea’s and thoughts through my passion for writing, which  I believe to be one of the best mediums for expressing humanity. I live for a larger purpose than myself.”

Deep… eh? Notice how detailed I was? This wasn’t just a common goal shared by humanity. This was MY mission, MY purpose.

What is yours?

When developing a mission statement it is of great importance to remember that it is YOUR mission. Not your mom’s. Not your dad’s. Not your wife or husband’s. Not your friends or your kids. But YOURS.

Write down what you really want. Leave all your socially conditioned beliefs behind.
Want to be the best chef in the world? Want to be a vet? Want to help the homeless?
Feel it. Visualize it.

Go on. I’ll wait. NOW! This is the time!

Be as specific as you can. If you are not absolutely filled with energy after this exercise, you still have a ways to go. The goal is be filled with energy when mediating on your mission.

Once you have discovered your mission, your true life mission, continue to build on this momentum daily. Review and meditate on your mission each day. Always remember to keep it congruent with the person you are. Change is ok. It means your growing.

I personally like to carry a card in which I have my mission statement written on in my wallet. This reminds me of my purpose numerous times thought-out the day. You may perhaps, post it on your wall, your fridge, anything…Just keep it in your mind and heart…daily! All the time!

Now I must warn you. Developing a mission statement will not, I repeat will not, rid your life of unfortunate circumstances. You will still have bad days. You will still have doubts. You will still have fears.

What a mission statement will do however; will give you the will to push through and to persevere. That is why developing one is essential to truly succeeding.

Simply recognizing your life mission will enhance the quality of your life tenfold. Your subconscious mind will begin to develop ways in which your mission can be carried out. With your whole mind, body, and soul behind your mission, rather than just your ego, you can begin to truly live in this boundless world.

May you have a wonderful 2010.