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6 Personality traits to admire and acquire

Everything from Manipulative Marys to Bullies in the workplace to people who break boundaries to toxic relationships…..  Let’s face it:  In life, we come across all kinds!  As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy.  Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may do a lot of good.  The more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks…legitimately.  Maybe they have a fantastic outlook on life, even during difficult times.  Maybe they are really humble, although they are extremely gifted.  Maybe they make you feel special.  All of these are good.

Below, I’ve listed some of the traits I admire most in people.  Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.

  1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common.  People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give.  Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special.  While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.
  2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals.  All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies.  After all, these differences make the world go round.  Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.
  3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial.  Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess.  To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.
  4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us.  Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected.  Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.
  5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find.  In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.
  6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time.  Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.

Oh boy the list could go on!  What characteristics do you admire in others?  Are there any that you want to cultivate?

An Unfortunate Universal Truth – Tin and Humans…a.k.a The Biggest Problem in Universe!

Today’s Chemistry Lecture:

Tin is a chemical element with the symbol Sn (Latin: Stannum) and atomic number 50. It is a main group metal in group 14 of the periodic table. Tin shows chemical similarity to both neighboring group 14 elements, germanium and lead, like the two possible oxidation states +2 and +4. Moreover, it has a very striking similarity, as it has the same physical property as of human beings!

Wait a minute, Bro!

“Are you nuts?” “Similarity with Humans…You mean us??”

“Yeah. Listen up…..”

So you’re wondering how come I boasting around with my crap Chemistry! True I am no genius about Chemistry but surely I noticed one similarity.

When I were in Class 4th, that is, umm..year 2000, I remember one quote in a Hindi story:

“All human beings are like Tin. They become hot quickly and in the same rate, they cool down too!”

I call it the BIGGEST problem in universe. Why? Let me elaborate.

Change!

Obama says “Change”. Martin Luther King said “Change”. I say “Change”. You say “Change” .We say “Change”. Everybody knows one word, “Change!”

Sometimes I reckon this is one of the most over-used word and idea in the human history.

I already explained the way change got to be, that is, by Thinking Differently.

You know something? $8 Billion an year can eradicate people from starving on this planet. If Americans spending $45.5 Billion every year on pet food is radical, logical, and smart enough… its upon your conscience to decide. We have enough funds to spend on such stuffs, but for some noble cause, you can’t spend money?

I tell you people’s problem. I will give hot arguments, and quotes from 114 books. And your blood will warm, Adrenalin shall start circulating and you’ll say, “Yes. We must do this ______, do that _______”

And your begin thinking about it.

One minute. Two minutes. Five minutes.

Whooooooooooooooooooooooooooooosh……………………

Over!

“I have gots work to do.”

“I will do it, some other time”

“Uhmmm..crazy.”

“Its not my thing.”

(Yawn)

“Sh*t, it was party at 6!”

The Past And the Present

You know what, people? The real problem is not that we lack ideas, thoughts or such things.

The real problem lies in our inability for a drive. A flame inside ourselves. Yeah, we get a spark, sure…and it soon goes off!

Why can’t you have a flame that burns properly?

I have no intention to make you fall in depression…But spend a minute on this thought.

Remember.

When you were 8 or 10, and you used to think…”When I’ll be grown-up…like 10-20 years later…I will be doing this…that…. ” Almost a King of the World.

Of course we don’t have a system of Kings and kingdoms anymore, but why did you fail? Do you really think you are as good as you always dreamed to be?

Why not?

O.K. You may say, “I am at Harvard studying Oncology”. Great! You might have been in the forefronts where you never even imagined to be. But what about being a passionate person? A person who jives with thoughts and ideas and works?

Do you really think you are really as good as you always dreamed to be?

Why not?

Because of your weaknesses…?

Maybe, but real answer is still afar. Nobody is born perfect. Am I perfect? If I had been, I wouldn’t have had started out this blog to  let you know about the mistakes I did because of my weaknesses, and experiences I attained from them.

I tell you the answer.

Thanks to you possessing same physical properties as of Tin!

Yeah!

Your drive, passion..where is it? Why have we all become so pathetically lazy about doing something?

We think..and think..and think. And we divert our energy to other things eventually. Take a cause, and jump on it.

I shall be writing some  more after brainstorming further.

(Although, now onward, I shall not blog much for some days…as I have my examinations coming soon)

A Little Say…

Nobody is born perfect. No place is perfect. We make it perfect.

Each day life will send you little windows of opportunity. Your destiny will ultimately be defined by how you respond to these windows of opportunity.

When you bring your highest talents and deepest devotion to the work you do, what you are really doing is settling up for yourself a richer, happier and more fulfilling experience of life.

So people,

Don’t be a Tin. Be human.Be yourself


How To Develop A Mission Statement

It’s 2010. So what?

You have “New Year resolutions” I’m sure.

“I’m going to lose weight.” “I’m going to exercise more.” “ I’m going to live a happy life.”

All valid goals! But if you’re like most people you’re going to fail.

What? Did I really just use the F-word? I expected something higher on aptitude, man!

Let me be the first to say that I have new year resolutions too.

I want to take my blog to the “next level.” I want to eat healthier. I want to exercise more. I want to build even deeper relationships than I already have.

Just like you I’m human. I desire for a better life.

But you see the thing is many of us fail to implement our new years resolutions. Many of us revert to our same old negative habits with in months, weeks, or days, perhaps even hours.

Why is this?

Because you don’t have a purpose. A mission.

Let me say that again you don’t have a purpose or a mission.

Before you scream back but… but.. “ I want to help people!” “ I want to be skinny!” “I want to be rich!”

Let me quickly say this:

Those are not missions. Those goals. Those are universal desires, not your specific mission.. Let me explain.

The people that get what they want. The people, who REALLY get what the want, have a mission. Missions, which, come rain or shine, day or night, they live for.

They live for.

Now look back at those things you supposedly want. “To help people.” “To be skinny.” “To be rich.”
Are you doing everything in your power to accomplish these things? If you haven’t discovered your true life mission, probably not.

I’ll be honest; developing a life mission isn’t easy. It takes a lot of hard work and deep thought, week’s perhaps even months of reflection.  Trust me I learned the hard way. It not happen overnight. But developing a life mission is essential for success. This isn’t new.

Ask any truly successful individual what their life mission is, and I assure you they will respond back with a crystal clear response. Steven Covey author of ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People‘, a must read (as well as MANY other authors) discusses this topic in great detail.

Why?

Let me make myself clear. Mission statements are essential for success.

“Ok. Ok. A mission statement is important I get it. What do I do next?”

The answer is simple. Develop your own mission statement.

How do I do this, you may ask?

Reflect, reflect, and reflect.

I’m going to share with you my current mission statement. I update this constantly to fit my current dreams and intentions; therefore you must do the same. A mission statement is to remain flexible as you continue to learn and grow. So as of right now, the first of the year this is MY mission statement, one that I will base my values and success off of for the 2010 year.

You ready? Here it is.

“My purpose in life is to live passionately and courageously, to enjoy life, to radiate with energy, passion, and love, to share my knowledge in hopes of improving the consciousness of others, to continue to grow daily, sharing my passion for growth a long the way. To share my idea’s and thoughts through my passion for writing, which  I believe to be one of the best mediums for expressing humanity. I live for a larger purpose than myself.”

Deep… eh? Notice how detailed I was? This wasn’t just a common goal shared by humanity. This was MY mission, MY purpose.

What is yours?

When developing a mission statement it is of great importance to remember that it is YOUR mission. Not your mom’s. Not your dad’s. Not your wife or husband’s. Not your friends or your kids. But YOURS.

Write down what you really want. Leave all your socially conditioned beliefs behind.
Want to be the best chef in the world? Want to be a vet? Want to help the homeless?
Feel it. Visualize it.

Go on. I’ll wait. NOW! This is the time!

Be as specific as you can. If you are not absolutely filled with energy after this exercise, you still have a ways to go. The goal is be filled with energy when mediating on your mission.

Once you have discovered your mission, your true life mission, continue to build on this momentum daily. Review and meditate on your mission each day. Always remember to keep it congruent with the person you are. Change is ok. It means your growing.

I personally like to carry a card in which I have my mission statement written on in my wallet. This reminds me of my purpose numerous times thought-out the day. You may perhaps, post it on your wall, your fridge, anything…Just keep it in your mind and heart…daily! All the time!

Now I must warn you. Developing a mission statement will not, I repeat will not, rid your life of unfortunate circumstances. You will still have bad days. You will still have doubts. You will still have fears.

What a mission statement will do however; will give you the will to push through and to persevere. That is why developing one is essential to truly succeeding.

Simply recognizing your life mission will enhance the quality of your life tenfold. Your subconscious mind will begin to develop ways in which your mission can be carried out. With your whole mind, body, and soul behind your mission, rather than just your ego, you can begin to truly live in this boundless world.

May you have a wonderful 2010.

How Hungry Are You?

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Burj Dubai a.k.a Burj Khalifa – World Tallest Building (I should add: as of 2010! Hope even taller buildings will be constructed soon…)

Construction Cost: $1.5 Billion

Read now:

starvation

“How great it is that not a single person need to wait before changing the world”

-Anne Frank

Before we continue I want you to first take a moment and reflect on the photos posted above. Assuming you have a pulse in your body, they should make you feel fairly uncomfortable. Maybe they make you feel sad? Or angry? Perhaps even both.

While reading this post today, I ask that you contemplate this question “Why, despite an abundant amount of food, shelter, and water, does poverty continue to exist?”

Theoretically and practically, poor people shall remain on Earth. And that’s so obvious. In a world of people earning even $3 million per day, there will be people earning $2.9 million too. They might be termed ‘poor’ accordingly…But the real problem (and real poor) is the people who cannot even afford basic requirements of life-Food, Clothing and Shelter and clean water (and sanitation too).

United Nations formulates 8 basic needs:

  • Food: Body Mass Index must be above 16.
  • Safe drinking water: Water must not come from solely rivers and ponds, and must be available nearby (less than 15 minutes walk each way).
  • Sanitation facilities: Toilets or latrines must be accessible in or near the home.
  • Health: Treatment must be received for serious illnesses and pregnancy.
  • Shelter: Homes must have fewer than four people living in each room. Floors must not be made of dirt, mud, or clay.
  • Education: Everyone must attend school or otherwise learn to read.
  • Information: Everyone must have access to newspapers, radios, televisions, computers, or telephones at home.

Wait..Wait.. Wait! Information? They formulate ‘Lack of Information’ in absolute poverty too…and here, 1.1 Billion people live below $1 a day! So, if take into account all these 8 points, where are we going to stand?

That is 1 in every 5 people of this world, lives in merely under $1 a day. Food+Clothes+Shelter+Clean Water (my conscience asks me not to include all 8 points into it or it’ll look both hilarious and shameful to me) : Within One Dollar!

30 Hour Famine:

Here I narrate an experience by one of my international friend:

This weekend a group of classmates and myself participated, in what was my second “30 Hour Famine.” This profound event, sponsored by World Vision , was put together to raise awareness and money in hopes to one day eradicate poverty in the world.

The event was simple. A group of about 70 students and myself gathered for a lock-in at our school and consciously fasted for 30 hours, giving us perhaps a small glimpse of what it feels like to be hungry. Raising money is easy, fasting for 30 hours is not.

Participating in the 30 Hour Famine was unfortunately not  as  popular as it should have been.

Some reasons I heard from friends who did not attend:

“I need to eat.”

“I’ll starve to death.”

” Starving myself will not raise money for the children.”

” I don’t have time.”

Starving myself will not raise money for the children. True! But  Why, despite an abundant amount of food, shelter, and water, does poverty continue to exist?”

While you’re here, check-out this Wikipedia page.

I must state 2 more statistics:

Number of people living below poverty line in:

China: 8%

India: 24%

Problem? Both of these countries have a population crossing 1 Billion. Calculate for yourself!

I am well aware that statistics do very little in regards to evoking emotion. Therefore I’m not going to bother you with stats like ” 1.1 billion people live on less than a dollar a day” or “26,000 thousand children under the age of 5 die everyday to due to poverty.” I’m not going to bother letting you know that 8 billion dollars  a year could provide food for everyone in the world, and that Americans spend 14 billion dollars a year on diet products. I got two data for the money Americans spend on pet food: One says, $16.7 Billion, and other $45.5 Billion (Source: American Pet Products Association)”

Instead I’m going to try to do something different with you today.

Picture a loved one.

How does that person make you feel?

This could be your mom, dad, brother or sister, your son, your daughter or perhaps even your best friend.

I want you to picture the joy and  excitement that this person brings you.

For a moment simply feel.

Now I want you to imagine,  this person laying in your arms.

Their stomach bloated from starvation. Looking  into your eyes,their body dying for food, they cry “feed me“. You have no food to give them.

You stare back at them hopeless. There’s nothing you can do.

Your loved one soon dies in your arms.

Now if you did this exercise correctly you should be feeling pretty emotional right now. For hundreds of thousands of parents around the world this nightmare isn’t an exercise, it is reality in which they face every single day.

When I do this exercise I picture my girlfriend.  I can not fathom one day watching her die because she can’t eat. Can you let your loved one die in your arms starving?

The thought of children and parents dying as I lay asleep in my bed makes me want to cry.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.

How Hungry Are You?

I’m going to be perfectly honest. For most of my life I have lived a life of ignorance. For most of my life I haven’t given a damn about those around me. For most of my life it’s been all about me. For most of my life I’ve turned my back on service because I’ve had “better” things to do. Yet as I have grown older I have come to realize the error in my ways. Years ago I realized I was lucky, now I realize that it’s up to me make a difference.

It’s up to us to make a difference. Changing the world lies in our mindset. Stop thinking you can’t make a difference because you can. Follow your heart and give. Doing service is positively correlated, the more you do the more you will want to do. Quit sitting back waiting for others to solve our problems.

The solution is you.

I was debating on whether or not to put a list of organizations that you could contact to help give, yet I think it’s best you do your on research. There are hundreds if not thousands of organizations out there that want to make a difference, make sure to choose one’s that are congruent with your purpose. If you are completly lost I suggest you check out Free Rice.

The 30 hour famine made my friend’s mates hungry. The funny thing was, this hunger didn’t go away for me too.No this hunger remains with me today. The 30 hour famine left me hungry, hungry for change. The question is how hungry are you?

Why our Current Education System is Failing!

(“Acknowledge: Aboundedworld”)

WARNING: This post goes against social conditioning and is particularly lengthy: read if you dare.

As my high school career has finally ended (I graduate March 2009) I have found myself particularly reflective on the value I have received from high-school.

I end my high school career with a sub-par 3.3 G.P.A ,having never received a prestigious academic award, and a quick glance at my attendance record would reveal numerous absences (OK 32 days just this year.)

If I listen to what I have been socially conditioned to believe:

Sub-par grades + number of awards +   a good (and useless) attendance = the end of my life

Right?

I beg to differ.

Chasing The A

For most of my life (along with millions of other students) I have been taught to believe that the secret to a successful life is to get outstanding grades. Slowly over the years however, I have discovered this premise to be completely false.

Luckily, over the past few years, I have been fortunate enough to immerse myself in a variety of empowering perspectives and thus have come to  understand that we are 100 percent responsible for our life.

We can be as happy and as successful as we choose to be. Our attitude, not our grades, determines our success.

I have been fortunate enough  to recognize that education goes beyond just the classroom. Life is our greatest mentor. Unfortunately,  I’m one of the lucky ones.

Myself, along with millions of other students, have failed to apply ourselves, not because we’re not smart enough, not because we don’t care about our future, but because we are tired of being dictated by a system of letters.

Continually brain-washing students into believing good grades are essential in living a successful life, has had some disastrous consequences:

Students are more stressed then ever. Cheating has become increasingly rampant. Students spend an excessive amount of time obsessing over getting perfect scores (after all they’ve been told they won’t have a job if they don’t.)

In fact, a classmate of mine  routinely stays up past 2 A.M in order to stay a float. Excessive? I think so.

What’s even more depressing about our current education system, is that it leaves millions of “average” students behind. Millions of kids with incredible potential are left to die (educationally speaking) never realizing their true potential.

Many of my current classmates, each of whom  could literally change the world, are paralyzed by fear, and are instead choosing the path of security: That is get good grades. Get a job. Be happy. Unfortunately that’s rarely how it unfolds.

We can live our purpose today.

I’m not suggesting that our current education system doesn’t do any good. It does teach us the basic necessities.  However, much of what we learn in school is not practical in the real world.

Where are the courses on blogging? Where are the money management courses? Where are the classes dedicated to eradicate poverty? Where are the classes that help us find our purpose?

Our current education system places too much emphasis on the A (and in my country, we have an A+, parents pressurizing to have it anyhow!)and not enough emphasis on unleashing the promise that lies in each and every one of us.

Education Through Reading And Experience

One of the most startling shortcomings of our current education system, is the lack of relevant reading. We are forced to read (A.K.A sparknote) ancient  text that we often find difficult to understand.

All this does is encourage a distaste for reading.

I’m not suggesting that ancient texts such as Shakespeare (Macbeth etc.) don’t have any value, however what the students read should be up to them.

“But wait! Then they will just be reading the latest trash.”

To which I reply ” Yes, but at least they will be reading.”

Our top priority must be to instill a passion for reading. The progress of humanity depends on it.

A number of my friends routinely say ” I hate reading”

And I always reply, ” You just haven’t found the right book.”

For reading to complement education like it needs to, the books we read must be relevant to us. Not our teachers, not our parents, but us. Each book should be likened to a puzzle piece completing our soul.

Our current education system is putting too much effort into things that don’t matter. Busy work. Perfect grammar.  Memorization. All of which does nothing for us 10 years down the road.

Over the past 4 years I have read close to 100 books. Only 15 of those books being school related.

Those 75 books (OK I’m rounding here) I read outside of school completely transformed me. My philosophy, my attitude, who I am today, all stem from the numerous books I devoured.

Education is about unleashing one’s confidence. Education is learning from failure. Education is growing from experience. Education is discovering your passions then pursuing them.

Education is not rote memorization. Education is not analyzing books that have no meaning to you. Education is not wasting your time on subjects you hate. Education is not being paralyzed because your afraid to fail.

Having attended a prestigious school in Lucknow,  India, I can honestly say I have learned more from bringing my thoughts together, going to various competitions, and making friends from around the world, then I ever have in a classroom.

Education is meant to be enlightening. Reading and experience are the key.

Finding Your Purpose

Education is meant to help us find our passion, our purpose in life. Unfortunately, our current education system fails miserably.

We’ve been told:

You have to go to college to be successful. After that you have to go to grad-school. Make sure you get all A’s or you will fail.

Instead of embracing education many students (including myself) have adopted a mindset to just survive.

We’re so used to being told who we can or cannot be, many us don’t even know who we actually want to be.

All the education in the world is worthless if you never unlock what makes your heart beat.

Again, I have nothing against college or even grad-school for that matter. In fact I believe both can offer tremendous benefit to our being.

The problem lies in the fact that we’ve been told that you have to do this, you have to do that, in order to become successful.

Who says life has to be a linear line?

The traditional life time line:

High School: College: Grad-School: Job ( you most likely hate): Retire: Die

Why not:

High School: Find Your Purpose: Love Your Job: Live your life. Die Happy?

The latter sounds more enticing to me.

Education is all about growth,  it’s about experience, it’s about creating authentic relationships. It’s about being human. It’s about connecting with humanity.

Our current education system is inherently flawed. Times are changing. We must stop obsessing over becoming “book smart” and instead focus on unleashing our passions.

Without living out our passions we just add to the clutter of the world.

When we choose security, we sacrifice our passions, killing part of us in the process.

I have tremendous faith that the answers to today’s problems of the world: poverty, war, and disease, will be solved by the youth of today not because they are smart but because they follow their passions.

Enough Is Enough

I know I speak for millions of students around the world when I say:

We’re tired of being told we’re not good enough. We’re tired of doing mindless work that only adds stress to our lives. We’re tired of feeling unworthy just because we fail to meet the expectations of the A+ poster child.

We’re tired of being told who we can or can not be. Shouldn’t we decide that for ourselves?

We need to be inspired. We need to be encouraged. We need to spend time doing things we love. We want to change the world.

Is that too much to ask?

So many students fail to realize their potential because a simple grade tells them they have none. They receive a D and thus feel they are worthless and have nothing to contribute to this world. This defeats the whole purpose of education. Education is meant to build not destroy.

In no way am I suggesting getting good grades is a bad thing; that would be foolish. Getting good grades is not the problem. Allowing grades to dictate one’s life is.

Grades don’t guarantee success.

Passion + Determination + Positive Attitude = Success

I’ll give you an A+ if you transform the world  :-)

What are your thoughts on our current education system? What do you think must be done? I encourage you to share your comments in the comment section below.

It’s obvious our current education system needs major reform, until then however, it can proudly boast a fat D- on its fridge.

Editors Note: In no way is this post attempting to bash the educators of our world (whom I am eternally grateful for) but rather the education system as a whole.